The actress really hated to play the sweet，passive woman that audiences identify her with.

参考译文：那位女演员真的很讨厌扮演那个观众认同她的甜蜜、消极的女人。

句子语法结构分析如下：

主语：The actress

状语：really

谓语：hated

宾语：to play the sweet, passive woman

修饰不定式宾语"woman"的定语从句：that audience identify her with

(1)play 扮演，饰演（角色等）

Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, in which he played Hyde.  

他在其中饰演海德一角的《化身博士》

His ambition is to play the part of Dracula.  

他渴望扮演德拉库拉。

(2)play装扮；假装；充当 

Hill tried to play the peacemaker. 

希尔想要充当和事佬。

She was just playing the devoted mother. 

她只是装得像个尽心尽责的母亲似的。

(3)identify with 认同;理解;体会

She would only play a role if she could identify with the character...  

她只愿扮演她能认同的角色。

I could speak their language and identify with their problems because I had been there myself.  

我会讲他们的语言，能体会他们的难处，因为我自己曾在那里呆过。