你的理解有误,这里不是So +助动词+主语的那种倒装句式。So就是“于是”、“因此"的意思。只是后面接了一个一般疑问句而已。比如我给你写个简单的句子:So are you unhappy because you cannot understand this sentence? So后也可以加个逗号,这样也许你就不会误解了。
"Being trusted, being confident, makes you feel better about yourself and happy," she said. "So are our kids anxious because we are fearful, we are holding them back, and this is leading them to be depressed?
这句话的so are 是一般疑问句吧,so是修饰anxious吗?so are our kids anxious有倒装吗?