Just before I left the hospital, I came across two young women in their thirties, both with small children and both with cancer. I thought, well, what am I worrying about, because my children are grown up and independent. If I can get this right for myself and make some sort of peace with it, then the people who love me will also accept it and this needn't be too bad a time.

 Of course, it wasn't as simple as that. When I came out of hospital I found I was getting it wrong with quite a lot of people, because they didn't look at it the same way as I did. And again, I think if you're going to die around the age of 50, far more people are involved than if you're dying when you're really old. You know, it's fairly threatening to people of your own age, they see you in the middle of a fairly busy life suddenly stopping-and they find it unacceptable. This business again of getting them to give me permission to die. . .

1、I found I was getting it wrong with quite a lot of people是指，“我与大部分人误解这个问题”，还是介词with不是表示“与......一起”？

2、 既然they find it unacceptable，那么为什么“又使他们允许我选择die" (getting them to give me permission to die. . .)，前后表达似乎有点矛盾？

3、This business again of getting them to give me permission to die. . .这句的谓语动词是哪一个？