1. It's not that talking to the waiter is better than talking to your husband but interactions with peripheral members of our social network matter for our well-being also.

对于这个复杂句，我有以下一些疑惑，向各位老师求教：

个人认为该长句有3个谓语动词，2个is和matter（如果matter这里是动词的话），那么意味着这个长句一共由3个句子构成，因此应该出现两个连接词。that算一个连接词，引导后面的句子；个人认为这里的but不是用来引导从句的，而是把(that talking to the waiter is better than talking to your husband)和(interactions with peripheral members of our social network)这两个结构并列起来做对比，如果是这样，那么还有一个连接词去哪儿了？个人猜想，这里的It's如果是一个强调句的结构，强调的部分是(that talking to the waiter is better than talking to your husband but interactions with peripheral members of our social network)，那么是不是matter前面省略了that？欢迎各位老师给予指点，谢谢。

2. Encouraging this kind of thinking has a downside. I ran the risk of losing those students who had a different style of thinking. Without fail one would declare, “But I’m just not creative.”

I asked, “So tell me one of your most interesting dreams.” The student would tell something wildly imaginative.

以上两个句子中的would似乎不太像是推测的用法，也不太像是虚拟语气的用法，那应该怎么去理解呢？表示意愿或主动愿意么？